Music Monday

I'm going to apologize right out of the gate to anyone using dial-up to read this blog, because it has as many videos as I could nab and links to others. You see, today's entry is about music and how it affects our moods, and what better way to try to experience what I'll be talking about than to hear the music? Some of these have an emotional tie that you won't be able to experience, but some of these are all about the lyrics.

Saturday night I spent some time alone with my music, really listening to it and letting myself feel the emotions it invoked rather than it just being background noise while I wrote on the prospectus or made dinner. It was a bit of an emotional roller coaster, and I wanted to share some of those feelings since I've gotten good at bottling things up until I explode. I can group the songs into three basic groups: Songs that Remind Me I'm Not As Cynical as I Wish I Were, Songs of Remembrance, and Songs of Strength and Hope.

Songs that Remind Me I'm Not As Cynical as I Wish I Were
I'm not as cynical as I used to be – and I blame it on the Depo! That darned "feel good" hormone progesterone coursing through my body is turning me into a soft girly girl who cries every time she sees the Sarah McLachlan ASPCA commercial on TV. Though I must admit that it's awfully nice to not have a heavy, soul-draining, irregularly-timed period every month-ish. Here are some tunes that played today that get me thinking about having someone special.

If I Were You, Collin Raye - This one's double listed. For the most part it belongs here because it's a love song, but it's not a cheesy, sappy love song (there's a little cynicism!). Collin Raye sings as part of a couple who's partner has just asked "Where we go from here?" He tells it straight up - he doesn't know ("Is what we have enough to last a whole life through? Who knows, baby, who knows."), but he'd like to figure it out ("I won't promise the moon, but I promise to be here."). The song is about real love, not idealized love. He doesn't know what the future holds, "But what if together it gets better every day?" Well, his answer is simple, really - "If I were you, I'd fall in love with me."


Chances Are, , Martina McBride and Bob Seger - This is a nice duet, and the singers' voices are nicely opposing. Seger's is deep and gravelly while McBride's is higher and smooth. They work well together with Seger's piano. A bit of the song play in the Sandra Bullock/Harry Connick Jr. movie "Hope Floats," and its tone fits really well with the movie in that it's about a love you weren't expecting that works its way subtly into your heart until one day you wake up and go, "Well, hell. I'm in love." It's shown in McBride's verse:

I remember clearly how you looked the night we met
I recall your laughter and your smile
I remember how you made me feel so at ease
I remember all your grace, your style
And now you're all I long to see
You've come to mean so much to me

It's a sweet song that I like to listen to over and over.


Shiver, Jamie O'Neal - This song is sexy. It's meant to elicit the physical and describe how a person can turn to goo just with a glance from her partner. A verse and the chorus:

I love the way your whisper slowly, softly lingers
in my ear
You move a little lower, the world starts spinning slower
Then it disappears
Your lips so close we kiss almost
Just barely touch, but that's enough to make me
Shiver
Tremble
I never, no I never once felt so much
It shakes me how you take me
Deeper than I've ever been it's to the core under my skin
I shiver

It's hot!





Songs of Remembrance

There You'll Be, Faith Hill - This song was very popular in the months after my sister died, but I didn't pay too much attention to it for quite some time. One night, I was relaxing before bed and just sitting still while listening to music. This song came on, and I really listened to the lyrics. I thought of how, when we were young, my sister and I had always backed each other up and been each other's best friend. "You showed me how it feels to feel the sky within my reach, and I always will remember all the strength you gave to me. Your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you. You were right there for me." I never truly recognized that I had learned a lot about inner strength of my little sister, but I suddenly knew while listening to this song that I hadn't learned enough. With the last lines of the chorus -- "I'll keep a part of you with me, and everywhere I am, there you'll be" -- I promised to keep my sister's strength and optimism with me, especially when it seems all in a situation is lost.




No Frontiers, The Corrs - For my brother's funeral, I made a CD of some of his favorite songs to play while folks gathered for the services. We finally figured out how to make the church's sound system work right before the services began, so the only song that got played was this one that I picked for when we all left the church for graveside services. This was one of our favorite songs when we lived together, and we often played Mary Black's version from a Celtic CD. When Paul discovered The Corrs years later ("It's a group of three hot Irish chicks and their brother" was how he described them), he often commented that he preferred their version over Black's.

In your eyes
Faint as a singing of a lark
But somehow this black night feels warmer for their spark
Warmer for the spark
To hold us ‘til the day when fear will lose its grip
And Heaven has its way
Heaven knows no frontiers
And I’ve seen Heaven in your eyes



My brother moved past any insecurities and fears he may have felt and lived a good life. Would that everyone could.


Faithfully, Journey - I went to the same Muscular Dystrophy Association summer camp from age eight until age twenty-one, and I made some of my best friends there. Every year we had a talent show, and after the show we had a concert from the Airheads, our in-house air band made up of mostly male staff members and a couple of boy campers. We all acted as if we were at a big time concert, screaming and throwing ourselves at the "band" members. It was great fun. The Airheads specialized in "covering" REO Speedwagon, Bryan Adams, and Journey, and every year they performed "Faithfully." This song always puts a smile on my face, and sometimes it makes me cry, because it reminds me of good friends.

Songs of Strength and Hope

If I Were You, Collin Raye - I know I mentioned this song already, but it has two great lines that I need to print and put up near my home and lab computers. "If I were you I'd promise to live life for all it's worth, take all that you've been given and leave your mark upon this Earth." This is what I've been trying to do all my life. I've been trying to push through the stereotypes of disability, to show people (including some in my extended family) that a person in a wheelchair can contribute more to her/his community and the world than having a nice, safe office job. Please be aware that I am not down on office jobs. That's just not what I've been called to do. I'm a scientist, and I refuse to let bad dreams of being "fired" by advisor scare me off.


I Will Be, Lila McCann – This whole song is about believing in yourself, having confidence in yourself, and reaching for as high a goal as you dare. I don't think I can say any more than that. There's no video here, but you can hear the song at least.

I will be here, I will be strong
I'll face my fears when the night is long
And still go on
I will be brave, I will be bold
Follow my faith to a higher road
And I'm not there yet
But I will be